Serotonin. Dopamine. Phenylethamine.
These are some of the hormones our brain releases when we like someone. And that's all well and good for the initial phase, but what happens when things start to go downhill? Scumbag brain doesn't really help there, now does it?
I mean, what happens if 'it' ends. That's pretty crappy. Or even worse, if it's a one way street.
So, the end result is, an inability to move on. And that is a fucked up place to be.
Is the solution logical? Can a person, through their sheer argumentative brilliance, convince their brain to move on? Its possible. Here's an idea;
"Take something, like a habit or the likes, about the person you want to move on from. Something that bothers you. Something vague, yet broad. Something that nudges you, but doesn't necessarily push you of the cliff. And use it as a base (e.g: good example: Social ineptitude. bad example: replies in monosyllables). Now, whenever that person makes you sad, because that's bound to happen, you build upon this base. And you keep building upon it, till it resembles some sort of tall structure. Now, every time that person does something (no matter big or small) that, umm, pretty much bitch slaps you in the emotional metaphor kind of way, the foundations of this structure are shook. And, theoretically, there should come a time, when this structure falls apart, and you can say you have moved on".
I've been trying, that line of thought for long time now. And what happens can be accurately summed by this meme;
There is that obvious solution, of fighting fire with fire (Or in words of Kishore Kumar, 'Eenth ka jawab patthar'), where the Serotonin, Dopamine and Phenylethamine released for person B overtakes the remnants released for person A. But that requires waiting, and god dammit! I want instant results.
I have come to realize that, in such cases, instant results are hard to come by. Logic doesn't really help you out. You know what you can do, though? Hope. For the structure to crumble. For scumbag brain to become good guy Greg. For things to get better, but most importantly, for acceptance to settle in snugly; for as Albus Dumbledore once said ,"...and only with acceptance can there be recovery."
These are some of the hormones our brain releases when we like someone. And that's all well and good for the initial phase, but what happens when things start to go downhill? Scumbag brain doesn't really help there, now does it?
I mean, what happens if 'it' ends. That's pretty crappy. Or even worse, if it's a one way street.
So, the end result is, an inability to move on. And that is a fucked up place to be.
Is the solution logical? Can a person, through their sheer argumentative brilliance, convince their brain to move on? Its possible. Here's an idea;
"Take something, like a habit or the likes, about the person you want to move on from. Something that bothers you. Something vague, yet broad. Something that nudges you, but doesn't necessarily push you of the cliff. And use it as a base (e.g: good example: Social ineptitude. bad example: replies in monosyllables). Now, whenever that person makes you sad, because that's bound to happen, you build upon this base. And you keep building upon it, till it resembles some sort of tall structure. Now, every time that person does something (no matter big or small) that, umm, pretty much bitch slaps you in the emotional metaphor kind of way, the foundations of this structure are shook. And, theoretically, there should come a time, when this structure falls apart, and you can say you have moved on".
I've been trying, that line of thought for long time now. And what happens can be accurately summed by this meme;
 |
I have come to realize that, in such cases, instant results are hard to come by. Logic doesn't really help you out. You know what you can do, though? Hope. For the structure to crumble. For scumbag brain to become good guy Greg. For things to get better, but most importantly, for acceptance to settle in snugly; for as Albus Dumbledore once said ,"...and only with acceptance can there be recovery."
No comments:
Post a Comment